Do you have any bad habits?
I know of at least two of mine that I'd really like to change. I'm sure I have many more, but I've been aware of these two for quite awhile, and while I've made some half-hearted attempts to correct them, I really feel like it's time to get to business here.
This quote is always heartening . . .
It is never too late to be what you might have been. -- George Eliot
One of my bad habits is running late. Late for appointments, late for church, late for social events. Funnily, though, if I'm paying for something by the hour (like piano lessons), I'm able to get there on time. So, I clearly can do it, if I choose.
Let's face it. Being late is just rude.
Yesterday morning I had a doctor's appointment. I was checking email, and then decided I had time to empty the dishwasher and start a load of laundry. And then, of course, I had barely enough time to make it to the appointment. I thought, oh, I'll use the valet parking at the hospital (running late costs money, too). That was full. The parking structure was full up to the top floor, and going slowly around and around each level to get to the top, and then finding my way to the doctor's office made me 10 minutes late.
No man who is in a hurry is quite civilized. -- William J. Durant
This quote was running through my head as I hurried down the hall. (We all know to watch the negative self-talk, but sometimes it is quite justified!) When I finally arrived at my destination, the receptionist told me I was late, and that the doctor might already have left for lunch.
(Thankfully, he was still there, and was able to see me.)
Being late is rude. I don't want to be a rude person. This is one habit I really want to change.
Another bad habit I have is that of interrupting. So rude.
I've had two close family members bring this to my attention, again, in the past two weeks.
The thing is, sometimes I get so excited about what I'm thinking and want to share it . . .
No, not a good excuse. I already know what I think; it's much more helpful to hear what others are thinking.
I really am a good listener when someone is sharing their heart with me, or in some kind of trouble, or just needs a sympathetic ear. I can, and have, listened quietly and sympathetically to many friends and family over the years.
It's everyday conversation, or when we all get het up about politics . . . or when I'm with my book club, and excited about our latest read . . .
But really . . . there's no excuse.
I feel like I need to do what Benjamin Franklin did. He made a list of 13 virtues he wanted to develop, and then, at the end of the day, he recorded how he did with each one. His included temperance, frugality, and tranquility, among others. Mine would include timeliness, or better planning, so I'm not running late, and not interrupting.
Maybe I need to stick a dollar in a jar every time I interrupt. Or . . . get some duct tape.
Somehow, though, I really do want to find a way to do better.
Do you have any bad habits you want to change? Have you found a good way to overcome them?